how do i detect if a player comes NEAR something without touching?

First off, you gotta know how magnitude works.

Magnitude

Magnitude is the length of a vector. If you get the magnitude of a vector, you are receiving the length of that vector, in studs.

local vec = Vector3.new(0,5,5) --Define a vector
print(vec.magnitude) --Print out the magnitude
--> 7.071067810058 --Receive the length

Now, if you subtract two vectors from eachother, it creates a vector that is the length of the distance between them. Get the magnitude of that vector and you receive a number, approximately how far away the two vectors are from eachother.

local v1 = Vector3.new(0,0,-5) --First vector
local v2 = Vector3.new(0,5,5) --Second vector
local dist = v2 - v1  --Create another vector, of the difference between the two
print(dist.magnitude); --Now get the distance of it, using magnitude.
--> 11.180339813232

Applying to your code

In a script inside the player's Character, use magnitude to check the distance from the torso to the object. If the number you get back is lower than your desired distance, then the player is near your object.

local part = workspace.Part --Define your part!!
local tor = script.Parent --This is the torso
local near = 5 --The distance, in studs, how far 'near' is.

while wait(1) do
	--Get the distance
	local dist = (tor.Position - part.Position).magnitude
	--Check if it's near
	if dist <= near then
		--If so, announce it in the output.
		print(tor.Parent.Name.." is near "..part.Name.." !"
	end
end